Ebb and Tide 2014 | Page 57

And there was silence. Candy NEVER (If my memory serves me right) wrote any love story back in College, especially her own. She was fine and reserved, and can be misjudged as heartless, even, but the Candy we heard was different. Even at that very point of having the ONLY chance to snatch the man of his dreams, she was wise enough to say NO to herself. She could have been a mistress, a class A mistress, that is, but she knew what she was about to destroy. And she may be a little sad, but she was not bitter. If I was in her place, I’m like “oh heavens, why did you permit this married man to enter my life if he wasn’t meant to stay in it?” That’s probably the reason why I was given more “normal” problems compared to that of Candy’s. And like the overrated statements say “Everything has a purpose”, Candy shared this lovely quote of Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love: “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...” “I still love Justine. In fact, he is actually the reason why I did not marry. I have no regrets in standing up for this decision though. Loving him was the most selfless thing I have done in my entire life. I may be labelled as a martyr, but who cares? All I know is I did the right thing and it was not morality that pushed me to do it, it was love. Love is not only good, it is right. To pursue him was a “good” feeling but it definitely was not right. Which would sound better? Being with a married man or leaving a married man? Ladies, our choices will ALWAYS have their way to get back to us. I’m living a guilt-free life and I’m happy about it.” declared Candy.