So what’s wrong with indulging in it beforehand?
their appetite for something more substantial, a
Well, let’s consider this: if we had dessert before
couple can ruin what might have otherwise been
being fully satisfied with dinner, it could cause a loving and fulfilling relationship by engaging in
a multitude of problems. Obviously, we won’t be
physical intimacy too soon.
hungry for something nourishing, but worse, we’ll
So, my daughter asks, what is the limit? Well,
eventually feel bloated and weak from all that sweet ideally, I’d put two feet of space between her and
food. People who make desserts
her boyfriend until marriage, but
and other unhealthy foods a main
I guess that’s not going to work,
Trust,
affection,
emotional
part of their diet will become
so I had to give a different answer.
obese and unable to function well. connection, and respect
Holding hands, perhaps kissing a
are
the
meat
and
potatoes,
This much, our society tells us is
little more chastely than what we
or
the
chickpeas
and
fact.
see in our movies and snuggling
However, if you apply the same vegetables for our
together in front the television
vegetarian
readers,
of
a
concept to physical intimacy, you
could be the limit, but it’s more
can see a similar outcome. By good relationship
personal than that. Some people
allowing ourselves to indulge in
will find even these gestures too
sex before the other foundations of our relationship
tempting. Intimacy is a slippery slope, so once you
are fully formed, we are losing out on the joy we feel yourself sliding toward the limit, pull back and
could have received from a closer emotionally,
set the boundary there. It might seem frustrating in
mentally and spiritually connection. We are not the moment, as though you are depriving yourself,
only robbing ourselves but our partners as well.
but just like a caramel pecan cheesecake drizzled
Dessert is good, wonderful even, but it has its
with fudge is all the sweeter for the waiting until
place. If we allow it to take precedence over real after a meal, so too will you eventually discover
food, we’ll feel the consequences. Just like a person that physical love is the most fulfilling within a
can become obsessed with dessert and let it ruin marriage.
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DOZ Magazine November 2017