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Having a relationship can be very tough. Regardless whether it’s a family relationship or a romantic one. It’s always essential to know your partner needs, wants, and requests. Even if you try your hardest to maintain a relationship, there’s always that sometimes when something just doesn't work out. But then again, there’s those times when everything is perfect. However, even in these situations, there’s still a chance for a bad relationship to form. In this article we will be attacking the following questions: How do you know whether your relationship is healthy or not, how to fix or deal with an unhealthy relationship, and how to maintain a healthy one.

First, you have to look at yourself. How are you acting in the relationship, and how does that affect the other person? Every relationship needs understanding, care, and attention, as well as boundaries. Are you really respecting the other person in the relationship? Is there something you can do to go the extra mile? In life, you must find a proper give and take, but not feel the need to quantify, justify, or depend just on the that give and take. You must do your part. Ask yourself:

Does the other person trust you?

Do you trust them?

Are both of you happy?

Have your words or actions poorly affected the person or the relationship?

Does this need to be fixed, if yes, how can i work towards fixing it?

After you’ve gotten an idea of what your relationship is, decided whether it’s a healthy relationship or an unhealthy relationship. A healthy relationship is when both partners are being supported by each other, but are still independent human beings. This means that there are no signs of abuse, pressure, and/or accusations. Mutual respect, trust, honesty, support, and good communication are some signs you want to see in a relationship. An unhealthy relationship often ends up with a person feeling bad. The relationship can be abusive, and domestic violence can sometimes come into play. You would also experience lack of fairness, equality, sharing, communication, support and/or trust. After you’ve decided whether or not your relationship is healthy, you may choose a course of action.

Choice of action for a healthy teen relationship:

If you have an healthy relationship, then you're pretty good to go. But remember, one event can easily change this, so you should work on maintaining it. Ways to do this are: Casual compliments, talking about personal issues or topics, and working to find a common ground when in arguments (because regardless of how perfect your relationship is, arguments will spark). If you want more information, The Center for Healthy Teen Relationships has tips for you, and there are multiple other resources out there for you to use.

http://www.idvas.org/initiative/center-healthy-teen-relationships