WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER
Having the "Right Intentions" in Choosing the Right Marriage Partner
Article by Dr. Tunishai Ford
I cannot think of any other area that can affect someone's happiness more than being with the wrong lifetime companion. When I think about this subject matter, I do not know if I should thank God that I am still alone or if I should pray even harder to ensure that I meet and marry the right one. There is a practice going around, couples getting married for financial security, sexual fulfillment or political status and/or gain. Every reason except love is the motive behind many 21st Century nuptials.
In many cultures, marriages are arranged. Some arrangements take place as early as birth. I would dare to say that if you were to ask any couple who willingly practices this custom if they could choose someone they love to spend the rest of their lives with, they would gladly take advantage of the opportunity. Here in America where we have such freedom, there are still those who choose bondage. They think they are being smart and getting over because they get to have what they want (so they believe), but let me assure you, wrong motives and bad intentions catch up with us (Galatians 6:7 and Ecclesiastes 3: 17).
I see it too often where women marry men that they can manipulate and control only to find themselves miserable later because when they get tired of leading and want him to step up to the
plate, he does not know how. Also, men marry women they can control and belittle and when they need someone strong to lean on, their only anchor is so weakened from emotional, psychological and sometimes physical abuse, they can barely hold up themselves.
"We need to really examine our motives for getting married and make a real effort to change our mindsets about it. "