WHAT GOD HAS PUTS TOGETHER
women have endured—the anger, being overly independent, the lack of affection, short tolerance for nonsense, and yes, even trying her hand at “playin’” the game. The man is often present but has played the game for so long that he takes a passive position in providing for, loving, and nurturing his family. She was not initially given that responsibility. She is waiting for the man to take his rightful place in the marriage, the family, the community, and the church. Then, and only then, will she be able to fulfill her designed purpose to and for the man to help meet his goals and aspirations. She will stand by his side, not behind him or in front of him, as they both witness the beauty of their original purpose to come full circle.
Also, I wrote this chapter because I realize that men are victimized too. They sometimes allow themselves to get involved with the wrong women because they need stroked egos. You see, a man is only as good as the money he makes, his ability to care for and protect his family, and satisfy his woman sexually. If he feels inadequate in any of those areas, he feels inadequate. Just like men can sense when a woman is feeling bad about herself, so can women sense when a man is not at his best. A good woman will stroke and nurture a man’s ego and try to build him up. An evil woman will take advantage of him during his weakness and utilize the opportunity to destroy him.
Men, God gave you your ego, and He is the one that you should go to for your reassurance. Your self—worth is not based on your ability to perform sexually, but somehow you have been taught to
believe that lie! Yes! He wants you to take care of your families and protect them. Yes! He wants you to work and enjoy what you do for a living, and yes, He wants you to satisfy your wife (one woman), but all of that is possible only when you place God as the head of your life and seek Him for guidance. You are only as adequate as He allows you to be. You can do nothing right in your strength.
This segment was taken from the book, I Miss the Hugs, BUT Not the Hurts, the chapter entitled, "The Gold, The Glitter, and The Girls".
I Miss the Hugs, But Not the Hurts presents a potentially unique and often-candid look at certain processes typically involved in an effort to find, keep, or reconcile the loss of a bond with another person. Dr. Tunishai A. Ford considers facets of the male-female dynamic, taking into account the relative pace of life in a sometimes-uncertain modern society.
Occasionally incorporating an understanding of certain scriptural principles, the book combines personal observation and information with a goal to provide a thorough yet accessible resource.