MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS
SHOULD WE BE ENGAGED NOW?
Article by Christine Pembleton
I had an amazing Meet the One Breakthrough Session with a new client this week. She’s just started exclusively dating someone and is excited about the possibly of their relationship! WOOHOO!!
I always encourage my clients to stop overanalyzing and to enjoy the relationship. One of the advantages of following our Date to Marry Method™ process is that your relationship will naturally progress into marriage on its own. There’s no real work involved, just asking the right questions and having a great time!
As we were ending our session, she asked a question that I thought was really good. I hear a number of women asking the same question and I asked her if I could use it for this week’s blog post (to which she said yes!) Here’s the question:
“How do I keep from thinking about how it “should” be? I know I want to be married. Is there a timeline I should be following when I know it’s time to talk about marriage?”
Such a great question, right?
The mistake that a lot of couples make is determining when to get married by the time they've been together. For
".... the time that you’ve been together is not a solid indicator that you’ll be happy
in a marriage."
For example, if Ben and Jen have been together for 3 years, they may conclude that marriage is the obvious next step. However, the time that you’ve been together is not a solid indicator that you’ll be happy in a marriage. Marriage isn’t a magic wand; it only brings you more of the same relationship you already have.
If you really want to know if this is the time to get married, you’ve got to check the temperature of your relationship. Think about the following questions:
1. What’s the one thing you two do the most? ? Is it arguing, disagreeing or – DRAMA? If you’re not having fun now, marriage will only make matters worse.
A lifetime is a long time to not get along