Article by Dr. Tunishai Ford
BEFORE YOU SAY, "I DO"!
You've Got to Be the One
to Get the One
THIS IS AN EXCERPT FROM THE CHAPTER, "YOU'V GOT TO BE THE ONE TO GET THE ONE" IN THE BOOK "I MISS THE HUGS, BUT NOT THE HURTS" by Dr. Tunishai Ford
I am really disheartened when I think of the many couples who do not make it because they did not take the time to access whether or not they were going to be spiritually, morally, and economically compatible. This was a trend that I witnessed more with males than females, but of course, it is true for us, also.
Physical attraction is often the determining factor for couples coming together, and that is so unfortunate. We must learn to look beyond the physical and scrutinize the whole situation and background of the person we are considering getting involved with.
I wish that people would take the time and evaluate the situation before they just jump into marriage. All is not fair in love and war. True love is the key to happiness and when we allow ourselves to get involved with just the physical part of a person, we lose. Open your eyes and see the total package, it is okay if you do not like what you see. Move on. Do not become entangled because it looks and feels good to you; get involved because it is good to you and for you. If we want to attract a certain type of person, we should have similar values and goals in life. We should have something to contribute to enhance the other person’s life. Just as you may think the other person is special, you must be special too. They want God’s best just as you do.
"Open your eyes and see the total package, it is okay if you do not like what you see."