WOMEN IN TRUCKING
WOMEN IN TRUCKING
After a frustrating situation caused by a colleague’ s actions that appeared to challenge my If this is true, why do some of us walk
can have negative effects on us.
authority, I ranted to a friend. She advised me around as if we have a chip on our shoulder? to,“ assume good intent.” She suggested that Many of us have a sense of entitlement and act he had my best interests in mind and acted in as if we are“ owed” something from others. a way that he felt was supportive. Wow! That This doesn’ t promote like-ability, so if you feel was a different angle that I hadn’ t considered. entitled, get over it. You’ re not that special. I decided to use this as a reminder that things For others, being a victim is easier than are not always as they appear to us. taking control of your circumstances and
When we assume good intent, it gives us presenting a positive appearance. A victim is a new perspective on other people’ s actions. a helpless person, so the only way to change a Instead of thinking the clerk is incompetent, victim’ s attitude is to help them feel empowered and in control. Smiling is a great way to treat him as if he wants to sell you the items and get you on your way. Don’ t assume the change the way others treat you, so turn the waitress is purposely ignoring you; maybe corners of your mouth upward and watch the she’ s distracted by work or family issues. Really, she does want you to enjoy your meal. Try being nice, at least for one day. Give
effect you’ ll have on people you encounter.
We can agree that we truly WANT to be compliments, smile at everyone you meet, liked, and that it doesn’ t mean we’ re insecure. Bhargava claims we have a funda- if it makes a difference in the way your
and be approachable and friendly. See
mental human need to be liked because of friends, family, and coworkers treat you. our need to form relationships. Since our Maybe Grandma was right about catching flies with honey! ■ brains are wired this way, not being liked
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