normal . Choosing a mate seems normal . Talking on the phone seems normal . Yet in many cultures and our not long ago you would own your own farm not work for someone else , parents would chose your spouse , and talking face to face had no alternative for most people . Yet each one of these behaviors is very much a part of large complex system of social rules and expectations that affect our relationships to each other and are affected not only by cultural traditions but also by technology . Keep in mind the definition of technology as you respond to this question . Can we really surrogate our human responsibilities to a technology ? What can it mean to have a technology take over a human responsibility ?