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Death
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Dadashri: Yes, it is not easy to forget, but if you do not, it
will make you both miserable. As a father you have to ensure that
you do not hurt him any more.
Questioner: In what way is he hurt?
Dadashri: When you grieve over him, your unhappiness
reaches him exactly and for sure. It is akin to a telephone or a
television in terms of its remote effects. This is the nature of
vibrations created within, in this world. Will your grieving bring
him back?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: Is there anyway that he will come back?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: When you grieve, your grief reaches him and
when you pray for him, your prayers too reach him and he will be
at peace. Is it not your duty to give him peace? You can even
distribute some sweets to the children at school in your son’s
memory.
Whenever you remember your son, you should say a prayer
for the liberation of his soul. Uttering the names of Self-realized
beings like ‘Krupadudev’ or even ‘Dada Bhagwan’ will help
you. That is because both ‘Dada Bhagwan’ and ‘Krupadudev’
are the same as far as the Soul is concerned. They are different
beings, but in their elemental form they are the same. Even when
you say the name of Lord Mahavir, it is one and the same. Your
only desire should be for the liberation of his soul. You pray for
the good of others, so why must you not do the same for those
who are very close to you? You lived with him and shared
everything with him and now your only desire should be for his
salvation.