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Death
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Instead it would be better to tell them nothing unusual had taken
place and that the old man came down with a fever and died.
Give them a cursory explanation or else they will create more
problems.
Caring for the Loved Ones at the Time of Death
Questioner: What should the extended family and those
around, do when their loved one is about to die?
Dadashri: You have to be extremely careful when attending
to the care of the one who is on his deathbed. Graciously accept
everything that he utters. None of his sentences should be negated
and all his requests should be fulfilled. Do everything to keep him
happy, and even when he is mean, be kind in return. He may ask
for some milk. Give it to him immediately. If he complains about
the milk being too thin and watery, bring him a glass of good milk
promptly. Do whatever it takes to make him comfortable.
Questioner: So there is no need to be concerned about
what is right or wrong?
Dadashri: There is no such thing as right or wrong in this
world. Continue to do what you are doing to keep him happy. Be
gentle and patient with him as you would be with a child.
The Right Meditation At The Time Of Death
Questioner: There are certain rituals people are made to
practice in the last hour of their life. Some Lamas are made to
carry out certain activities in the last hour of their life. The Tibetans
Lamas say that when a person is on his deathbed, they tell the
soul of the dying person how to depart. Some people recite from
the Gita so that good words are spoken to the dying in his final
hour. Do these rituals have any effect?