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each piece, asking questions such as: “Do I like this? Does it fit? How long has it been since I’ve worn it?” Then act accordingly. Stifle sentimentality as you sort. Some items in your closet need to hit the dumpster, and you need to be ok with that! Take for instance your favorite jean skirt; the one that fits like none other but has grass stains and rips zig-zagged shut. It’s served its purpose; now gently lay it to rest. Other articles of clothing are too nice to throw away, but no longer fit or are your style. Resist the urge to keep that little black dress in the hopes that this will be the year you lose enough weight to fit into it. Get rid of it. People like us keep Goodwill in business; donate with pride. Extra nice items can be turned into cash from your local consignment store. I’ve tried to abide by the principle that clothing was meant to be worn, not hoarded away. Stockpiling clothing is materialistic, a violation of its purpose to be used and enjoyed. In my personal experience, getting rid of stuff is worth the satisfaction of opening a closet that contains only those items that I love and regularly wear. Practical Tip: If you’re having trouble getting rid of stuff, invite a friend to observe you modeling the items in question. Find someone who won’t side with your sentimentality, but will objectively tell you if your beloved corduroy jacket or bejeweled first-date heels need to hit the junk pile. CHOOSE QUALITY OVER QUANTITY. I routinely find great clothes at extremely affordable prices. The problem, however, is that I end up with piles of cheap clothes I don’t regularly wear, and much of the time, don’t even really like. I’ve decided that this approach shows just as much lack of restraint as spending beyond my means would. I’m still learning the discipline of quality over quantity. I recommend saving up for one well-made item, rather than 10 cheap ones. In this spring’s closet cleanse I decided it was time to raid my collection of winter coats. I was embarrassed at how many I had, and for the most part it was an easy decision which to discard. There was one coat I labored over, however - a fur-lined job I bought for 25 cents five years ago. It only cost a quarter! I rationalized, How can I get rid of it? I felt genuine anxiety over this decision, every frugal bone in my body screaming, “Keep it!” Eventually I realized that, 1. I don’t really even like the coat, and 2. My boyfriend just bought me two brand-new ones. The 25 cent coat now calls a Goodwill rack home, and my coat collection is reduced to the number I actually need: two. STICK TO YOUR STYLE. Purge out items that no longer fit in your style wheelhouse. Don’t apologize for loving maxi skirts while the rest of your friends rave about leggings and knee-high boots. If you prefer solid neutrals over chevron, then closet cleanse accordingly. Remember, the goal is to end up with items you personally enjoy and will wear regularly. Bear in mind that personal tastes change over the years; the frilly formal you loved a few years ago may no longer match your professional aspirations of today. Feel no grief about throwing it out. Compulsively altering one’s style to gain admiration from the in-crowd is not healthy, but recognizing the gradual matur