Darkside
the ‘victim’ is trying to get your character to
stop what they’re doing, even if your lover
doesn’t want you to stop. This is why a safe-
word is an invaluable tool. It should be some-
thing out of the ordinary that isn’t likely to
come up during the course of your play. ‘Ba-
nana soup’ is silly, but how often will that be
spoken aloud when things are hot and heavy?
Another option is to use ‘Green, yellow, red’.
Green indicates things are good, yellow says,
“It’s good, but don’t go any further than that’
and red? ‘Stop immediately’. By paying atten-
tion for the safeword, you can protect yourself
and your partner, ensuring that the fun stays
that way.
Restraints and Gags
Susan M from asubmissicesjourney.com offers
some advice on BDSM play...
W
hether you are merely on the fringes of
the BDSM lifestyle, or it permeates the
very fiber of your being and that of your
partner/lover as well, there is something for every-
one.
Whether you are a newcomer to the BDSM lifestyle,
or an old pro who has been tying knots and adminis-
tering punishments for years, there are a few guide-
lines that are good to remember. They will keep both
your partner and you safe, and help make certain
that each time is as enjoyable and earth shatteringly
wonderful as the next.
When ‘Stop’ Doesn’t Cut It
In an intense moment of arousal and passion, your
partner may utter the words ‘don’t’, ‘stop’, or ‘no’, but
these could easily be part of the play. Perhaps you
both are acting out some naughty fantasy, wherein
Tying down your lover can be one of the most
delicious and erotic things you can do, assum-
ing you follow it up with equally tantalizing
torment. But don’t skimp on the gear by buying
the cheap stuff sold at your average sex shops.
Go for the good stuff at professional BDSM sup-
ply stores (there are several reputable ones on
the Internet). Not only will dedicated vendors
have a wider selection, but also the quality of
their stock will be far superior. When it comes
to specific types of restraints, some adventur-
ous souls tend to prefer silk scarves. But items
‘Tying down
your lover can
be one of the
most delicious
and erotic
things you can
do...’
For BDSM lovers the world over
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