I want to be restrained
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John asks : Having explored my feeling about the subject in the last few month , I ’ ve hit a weird place ! I initially considered my attraction towards BDSM to be sexual , but recently , I just want to be restrained , no sex at all . Is that normal ?
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John , that is something I ’ ve never heard of . Although some subs like to be denied sex and that in itself is sexual . It ’ s a fetish . Is that what you ’ re experiencing ? Not feeling worthy of sex ? Or perhaps you ’ re becoming bored ? Maybe it ’ s time to move onto something that arouses you like BDSM once did ? Unless you ’ re happy with it , then keep doing it , but explore other things that do sexually stimulate you .
How can I be more assertive ?
Alastair asks : Hello , I am a very kinky and young ( 22 ) musician and artist , I want to be more disciplined with my career and also more assertive as a person . I have been researching BDSM and it ’ s many emotional and mental benefits , but have been wondering if it could also help me be more disciplined and assertive .
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You have a very rockstar name , Alastair ! I ’ m not sure which role you ’ d like to play with BDSM . Either way , it may help you be more assertive as everyone involved in BDSM has to make their likes / dislikes very clear and be assertive in that way . You can always dip your toes in it and see how it goes .
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Fisting is painful
Susan asks : My partner has tried fisting my pussy a few times . We have almost got there but not quite as it ’ s been uncomfortable and I ’ ve had a small amount of bleeding after . We ’ ve used loads of lube , no rush , silent duck hand position . I really need some advice . The position I ’ m in is on my back legs bent and up .
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Susan , perhaps you need to start out smaller . Perhaps you should purchase some dildos of various sizes or use more fingers , adding one at a time before using his fist and work your way up , with lube of course . The last thing you want to do is injure yourself .
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