Being a better Dominant
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Chris asks : Does it make you a better Dominant if you have been a submissive ( or , experienced activities a submissive would experience ) or is that unimportant ? Some regions in the past had rules that you could only strike someone with an implement you ’ d first had used on you . Do you think that improves the understanding ?
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Hi Chris , A Dominant using a tool on themselves isn ’ t being submissive , it ’ s part of being a Dom / Domme . A Dom / Domme must know exactly what they are inflicting on their sub . That is their responsibility . It ’ s important to know the tool that is being used and not to take the use of it any further than wanted . As far as a Dominant being a sub , that is not necessary at all and usually not desired .
How do I prepare myself mentally ?
Wendy asks : How do I prepare myself mentally to switch from submissive to the dominant role ? I ’ ve always been submissive and now my Dom wants to switch and try different things , including pegging , him submitting , calling me Momma , etc . I ’ m worried it may be a little too much for me , as I have never been into pegging . Any advice please ?
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Wendy , I heard what your Dom wants . What do YOU want ? He may be your Dom , but you have say too . Any relationship you ’ re in has to be mutually beneficial . If YOU want to be dominating , but you ’ re used to being submissive , it may take some time . Try baby steps and then see how you feel about it . If it ’ s working for you than keep growing , but if you ’ d rather not than you ’ re perfectly entitled to remain a Sub .
Paying to get answers ?
Tony asks : I met a mistress recently . I am very new to all this and I keep trying to ask questions but I ’ m not getting answers . Can you tell me if it ’ s usual to have to pay a registration fee to a mistress and then have to pay another registration fee to get the answers I need ?
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Hi Tony , That isn ’ t standard , but every Mistress has her own rules . You are in the position of deciding if these rules mingle with your comfort levels , wants , needs and desires . If you have a problem with her rules , either tell her and see if there ’ s room for compromise or move on . I ’ m sure you will find a Mistress who perfectly suits you !
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