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‘ Work out first . You ’ ll have a positive feeling from the endorphins running through your body and you ’ ll feel more confident about your appearance ’
some chores , listen to music , read or go for a walk . Sitting around doing nothing will only amplify your nervousness .
6 . Keep it short and sweet . Set a time frame for the date and stick to it . That way you don ’ t have to try and figure out how to ditch them if things are not going well ( The emergency phone call from a friend is old and well known ). Only commit to going for coffee or a cocktail or perhaps lunch . This keeps your date shorter without extended time where things could drag on .
7 . Have questions in mind . Having set questions in mind will calm any nervous energy you may normally experience . Avoid all cliche topics like what ’ s your sign . Find out about your date ’ s last relationship , but avoid asking specifics . To avoid appearing like an interrogator - allow your date to ask plenty of questions too .
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8 . Work up a sweat . Work out first . You ’ ll have a positive feeling from the endorphins running through your body and you ’ ll feel more confident about your appearance . You ’ ll also have released some tension on your muscles .
9 . Breathe deeply . It may sound overly simple or corny , but breathing slowly in and out of your nose actually calms your nervous system . Remember - it ’ s dating - it ’ s supposed to be fun so try not to take it too seriously !
10 . Concentrate on the present . When you get nervous , put your concentration in the present moment , not the outcome . Every time you start to think of the future - like “ will they ask me out on another date ?” force yourself to focus on the conversation at hand . You ’ ll stand a better chance at getting a second date if you can show them what type of person you really are and not distracted by the potential future .
Just remember that people are just people - they are insecure , nervous , happy and hopeful just like you . Enjoy dating for what it is – meeting someone new .
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Luna Carruthers
Luna Carruthers is the founder of Submissive Guide ( https :// submissiveguide . com ), a leading BDSM community focusing on practical knowledge to help submissives of all variations live their best lives . She is the author of several books , including the workbook , SUBMISSIVE REFLECTION - A Journey of Rediscovery and Affirmation . Luna embraced her submissive nature over 15 years ago and loves service and protocol . She is active in the local BDSM community in Iowa with her Dominant husband .
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