Darkside 101
First date jitters are perfectly normal , but it ’ s a good idea to calm your nerves prior to meeting your date . Before any first date , avoid thinking about the countless “ what if ” scenarios and simply go without any expectations . Unfortunately , the nervous energy attached to meeting a Dominant for the first time doesn ’ t go away for everyone . If you know a few tips and ways to calm your nerves before the big date , you ’ ll feel relaxed and ready to put your best foot forward .
1 . Write down your concerns . Once you see your thoughts in writing you may realize just how silly they actually are . It will also help you stop the thoughts that are bouncing around in your head causing unneeded anxiety .
2 . What makes you special ? Make a list of all the qualities you and others love about you . When you have a concrete list it will help you present your very best side and represent what a great person you are !
3 . Get perspective . The person you are going to meet either asked you out or agreed to meet you in the first place , so you are doing something right . If you were asked out , then they want to be with you . If they accepted your invitation , they decided to spend time with you . Keep that in mind so that you won ’ t be as nervous .
Also , they are likely just as nervous as you are and it might dispel some of your anxiety if you admit that to them . You don ’ t have to say it blatantly but , “ I don ’ t know why but I get a bit nervous on first dates !” It might open the door to comfort or mutual agreement and you won ’ t sound so desperate or afraid .
4 . Be prepared . Plan what you are going to wear in advance . Make sure you take a shower and take care of your hair and skin long before the date . Dress nicely and smell nice . It doesn ’ t matter what you wear , you can always look your best .
Also , make sure you have enough money for your date . Have some cash on hand . Don ’ t get in a situation where you have to worry about money .
If you are unfamiliar with the location of the date , call to inquire about things like dress code and parking . You can look up things on Yelp . com also for useful information . Have directions so you do not have to fumble with navigation in your car .
5 . Distract yourself . In the time leading up to the date keep yourself busy . Do
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