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‘ Mentors are not going to know everything , but they are going to be well versed in a lot of aspects that novices come to them with questions about ’
in conversation so that you can think things through and talk about what you want to talk about . Mentors know when to point questions at you that will help you think , but keep the conversation flowing the way that is most beneficial to you , the mentee , not the mentor . You should be able to pick up this trait from the interview phase .
3 . Are they professional yet comfortable to be around ?
When you first meet someone or talk to someone that is considering being your mentor , are they professional in manner ? You should feel comfortable around them relatively easily and feel free to talk about whatever is on your mind . If you feel uncomfortable or their questions are far more private than your relationship allows , it ’ s a warning sign that they are not the mentor for you . A mentor ’ s job is to make a novice comfortable with what they are experiencing and who they are , if that can ’ t happen in the interview phase it may not
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4 . Do they appear to know what they are talking about ?
Mentors are not going to know everything , but they are going to be well versed in a lot of aspects that novices come to them with questions about . If your mentor gives you the impression that they don ’ t know a whole lot about what you need to talk about , it may be best to seek out someone else . Great mentors will be prepared for all questions , even if it means they need to research and learn before they can give you quality advice . Someone not willing to work for you as well as with you isn ’ t really taking your growth strongly .
Now there are a lot of other things to look for in a mentor , but for now ; take these thoughts and figure out if a mentor would be someone you want in your current situation . If it is , start seeking them . Interview them before you start pouring your thoughts to them . Get to know them as a person and as a submissive . Feel comfortable with them and don ’ t let them lead the thoughts , they are there for your growth . Continue to learn and your submission will develop .
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Luna Carruthers
Luna Carruthers is the founder of Submissive Guide ( https :// submissiveguide . com ), a leading BDSM community focusing on practical knowledge to help submissives of all variations live their best lives . She is the author of several books , including the workbook , SUBMISSIVE REFLECTION - A Journey of Rediscovery and Affirmation . Luna embraced her submissive nature over 15 years ago and loves service and protocol . She is active in the local BDSM community in Iowa with her Dominant husband .
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