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Luna Carruthers offers some advice on finding a BDSM mentor that is right for you ...
4 things to look for in a BDSM mentor
‘ You want to find a mentor that has the same definitions of common terms in BDSM ’
There are mentors in every area of life and situation . In BDSM it is sometimes recommended to newbies to pick up a mentor but are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them . I know that when I first started out there were good people to be around and not so great people that left their mark on me . I do wish that people had lead me to learn what a mentor is and how to go about finding one that is right for me .
First , a mentor isn ’ t just a friend that you can talk to , although they could start out that way . A mentor is someone that you can get advice from , learn from and feel close to in a submissive context . They exist to help you learn who you are and what to expect in different lifestyle situations you may encounter as you grow in confidence and submission . A mentor is not a trainer and should not be directly involved in any physical training that you undergo . You should never have an intimate
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