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I ’ ve always had a fascination – particularly with Fetish fashion – for as long as I can remember . But as I mentioned earlier , the progression into the actual Dominatrix side of my personality has just seemed to evolve as each year has gone by .
Certainly the different experiences and opportunities of the “ open lifestyle ” I share with my husband ( Subby1 ), has meant that my Mistress Modesty personna has just developed at it ’ s own pace as I ’ ve gone along .
PD : Do You enjoy Dominating male and female subs in the same way ? Do you meet couples ?
Yes … and yes !!!
PD : What is Your favourite fetish ?
My favourite fetish is having fun … and just seeing where a session , or submissive , may lead me .
PD : Mistress Modesty , if someone asked You to take them past routine .
PD : Why do you think people are drawn to BDSM ?
For all of the innumerable , wonderful , people I have met during my time within the community – whether they be submissives or fellow dommes or doms – I think all would agree that what draws us all to BDSM is the feeling of release and freedom of expression . Just to be whom we completely want to be , even if for just fleeting moments
‘ I think all would agree that what draws us all to BDSM is the feeling of release and freedom of expression ’
PD : Do Your slaves come from any particular area of society or is it a cross-section ?
Oh definitely a cross-section . I ’ m continually surprised by the amazing diversity of backgrounds , cultures , careers , personalities and “ interests ” of my submissives .
PD : What happens in a normal session ?
Lol ... there is no “ normal ”. As part of the initial exchange following a session enquiry , I will ask the applicant for a three point list of their specific kink or desires . But , even with my regular returnees , my sessions always have a life of their own and , as long as it remains fun , I will just go with the flow and allow things to take their own course . their limits , would You ?
I begin every session with agreeing a “ safe word or action ” with my submissive . Safety , and each of us having a fun session is paramount to me . If I feel uncomfortable , or unsure , about how a session may be unfolding , then I will stop . Even if the sub in question has not yet asked me to .
PD : How important is after care to You ?
After-care is of the utmost importance . I always allow for “ winddown ” time at the end of each session , and to discuss the possibility of a future meeting . And I always send a follow-up message or email the next day to check on the subs safe return to their normal life and in time away from the norms and restraints of “ everyday life ”.
PD : Is there anything that You haven ’ t done within the BDSM world that You wish to ?
No , but there are a number of things that do not interest me , and which I cannot be asked to do !
PD : How do You feel about the way that Pro- Dommes and BDSM in general get portrayed in the media ?
My feeling is that too many people worry too much about the way things are “ portrayed in the media ”. My mantra is just to “ be
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