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CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS AN ONLINE SEMINAR BY ANNA S. Currents: “What is different about leading your group in person versus online?” Anna: “I’ve offered relationship workshops since 2016, and we discuss topics that are very close. When talking face-to-face, I monitor the group, mostly for non-verbal clues, to make sure not to hurt anyone. If needed, I can offer a glass of water or an exercise to allow a participant to restore balance. This is a challenge online. And I miss our hugs and photos afterwards.” CREATING CONNECTIONS In April 2020 I started a series of virtual workshops about relationships on Zoom. I am not tech-savvy, but I decided to give it a try. The first webinar took place on Thursday, April 9, and from my perspective was a disaster. Despite several successful advance trials, I could not share my presentation, as Zoom did not allow me to share my desktop. It took me time and sweat to fight through this misery while the participants used the time to chat about other projects. Thank you, ladies, for your patience. I was saved by Christine R., who at the end shared my presentation from her computer. The second webinar on April 30 was a cozy meeting with five amazing participants who could see each other on the screen in gallery view. Seeing everyone on the screen was incredible, because what we miss in isolation is not the thoughts or words of another person but seeing and hearing (and here I mean the tone of voice and the expression of the eyes) how this person is, in this very moment. We miss these encounters and mutual experiences. And I am grateful to have discovered Zoom. We discussed close relationships and their uniqueness and touched upon how these relationships, when they really work, reduce fears, improve well-being, and buffer from stress and adversity. We also discussed how we grow out of our birth families and carry the rules on how to connect and how to trust. We were physically separated, but it felt very close, even intimate. Thank you, Emilia, Susan, Christine, and Holly for being so warm and supportive. Reviews of the Seminar Dear Anna, thank you very much for the seminar today. It is very useful to hear the latest science on relationships, stress, and other topics. Competent and well prepared, it was a pleasure to participate in and to listen to you and the other participants. From Emilia J. Having Anna walk us through the relationship topic helped bring to the surface something that had been causing me stress for a while. Anna’s clear and simple approach helped me to open and tap my way through a long overdue conversation on a couple of tricky topics with my husband that left us both feeling better and closer. Thanks so much! From Holly T. Anna, I always appreciate your seminars; not just ideas or concepts but actual instructions...I found it very reassuring to know we can change patterns of learned behavior, and the first step, of course, is to have our eyes opened as to why we do what we do. Only then can we consciously make a change in our lives. I thank you once again for nudging me in the right direction. From Susan S.W. www.awchamburg.org 17