For the girls on the sidelines, I've seen some pretty exciting stuff happen! Romance has sweetly danced into the lives of many who have waited patiently. I've seen dazzling Princes ride up on their white horses and sweep some of the sideline girls away.
In reality, we are less sweaty and smell better, which makes us a little more attractive. We're not exhausting ourselves with every guy in town!
Maybe you've never considered the possibility before. Just because everyone else is doing something doesn't mean you have to go along with it...or that it will even work. Sometimes we can get so caught up in the frenzy of dating that we don't even realize that our hearts are in it for the wrong reasons. Why do we date anyway? Sometimes we date because of pressure from peers, or the fact that we feel insecure about ourselves. Or it may be that we just wanna have fun, or haven't even considered the fact that there might be another option. Runners in the race say,
“Those girls are such chickens! They're just afraid of getting hurt. They need to toughen up and get with it!”
I can only smile. No, we're not scared. Just smart.
Though it sounds like a foreign concept, waiting is actually quite simple. In order to wait, all you have to do is...wait. In a world that thrives on fast food, microwave ovens, instant internet access, fast forward and fast lanes, everyone wants what they want and they want it now.
That's how a lot of girls think about dating. I see him, he's handsome, I want him, and I want him now! So they set out to get what they want as fast as they want. You can do that. You can have ten boyfriends between eighth grade and the time you graduate if you wish. You're a beautiful girl with a colorful personality. You've got the whole world ahead of you, and many boys are going to see that and desire that you be their girlfriend.
But what if you said “no” a few times? What if you were patient? What if you chose not to settle for “just okay” and wait for something fabulous?
Remember, the guys you know are still frogs. And you're still a princess in training. Everyone has a lot of growing up to do. It's hard enough to figure out how to have a successful relationship as an adult. It's even harder to do when a girl's heart, emotions, goals, desires, dreams and body are all changing. And the boys you know are changing too. Would it really hurt to wait a few years? These single years; these years of slumber parties, pep-rallies, football games and science experiments...these are precious years. These are years that you'll scrapbook and hide in the archives of your heart for the rest of your life. Honestly, they're hard and painful enough without added boy-heartache.
Waiting simply means being content where you're at right now with your life. Learning to be confident in who you are, standing up for what you believe in, and becoming the best you could possibly be!
Chasing dreams is always more fulfilling than chasing boys.
Besides, you don't need a parade of boys following your perfume. Ultimately, you only need one man. One to come along side you and encourage you in your pursuit of being
People tell us that we're only young once and it's time we get out there and meet somebody! But for the girls who have been sitting on the sidelines, we have something that most of the runners don't. Our hearts are whole. We've not been dumped, beat up, chewed on and spit back out of the wild Dating Machine.