I noticed Kip Moore didn't speak to any of the hundreds of people who went ahead of us, besides a cordial "Hello, how are you?" I stepped up to the table before my sister did. He didn't even notice me or say anything, didn't even look up. My sister was behind me and when she came into sight, he stopped in his tracks. He engaged in an actual conversation with her, asked questions, and even gave her an "up and down check out" when she was talking. I genuinely was excited for my sister, but what does one do when your sibling is the focus of your celebrity crush of two years, and not you? You know how you have those dreams of meeting someone famous and when you do, he is instantly enamored? Well, as you can see, that didn't happen to me. It was my sister that Kip Moore gushed over.Ouch.
Have you ever been in a situation where you weren't found desirable in any way by a man? It rips your fragile heart out, putting it back in with the words "ugly, unworthy, fat, insignificant" tattooed on the surface of your heart. Sometimes, the poison of the ink settles into the center until your heart is almost completely black. Since we're using the metaphor of tattoos, here's the good thing about ink: it is only surface-level deep. one who can professionally remove those "heart-felt" tattoos is Jesus Christ.
But then you say, "How do I let Jesus remove these hurts? I don't know how to let go. How do I know if I'm healed and know my worth in Jesus Christ?" Well, you know how that verse goes, "Love your neighbor as yourself"? If you aren't loving yourself, you can't love anyone else. This kind of thinking creates unhealthy relationships. Do you see patterns in your life where you are constantly negative, even in the smallest of ways to the people around you? Do you find that when you're alone you can't stand it? Do you dread looking at yourself in the mirror after you get out of the shower, with no make up on and no push-up bra to add to your beauty?
If you answered, "Yes!" to any of these questions, then you are in desperate need of some good JTLC (Jesus' Tender Love and Care). With such a negative stream of commentary flowing through your mind, you can start becoming selfish. Selfish in your time spent with the mirror and a makeup brush. Selfish in the way you can't be a friend to another girl because you are constantly comparing yourself to her. Selfish in the way you can only think of your flaws, getting to the point where you can't see the pain in anyone else's heart. We can't be intentional and invest in authentic relationships when we are crippled by our insecurities.
If I would have had a boyfriend or husband or anything of the sort whom I loved dearly, the "going unnoticed thing" wouldn't even have bothered me. But, since the Lord has blessed me with singleness, often in my weaker times, not being noticed can hurt. Sometimes, the seeds of doubt creep into my mind that something is wrong with me because I am single. If you are feeling this way now, that is a lie! Singleness is a blessing, I have gotten so close to the Lord during this time. I know that sounds like a cliché, and I try my best to avoid them, but this one is so true. When a sister in Christ or a sister from birth gets in a relationship or is noticed, be joyous for her. Because, that's what love is. There is no room for jealousy. If those feelings creep in, rebuke them, because they're not of God.
JTLC requires time in the Word, pursuing a life that resembles Jesus' life of love, peace, and an unshakable faith (Ephesians 6:10). Out of all these, faith is the most vital when being single and maintaining hope. Faith will keep you from bitterness. Faith will remind you that Jesus sees you as His beautiful one (Song of Solomon 2:1-17), and that He will not withhold anything good from you (Psalm 84:11).
After I sulked for a little bit that Kip Moore didn't notice me, I bucked up, looked at myself in the mirror, asked my Savior to reveal to me what He sees in me and waited. Waited, not for a guy, but for the Lover of My Soul to show me the beauty He sees within me. Instead of asking men or parents or friends for affirmation, ask Jesus. I promise, He will be faithful. Just ask.
The only one who can professionally remove those "heart-felt" tattoos is Jesus Christ. But then you say, "How do I let Jesus remove these hurts? I don't know how to let go. How do I know if I'm healed and know my worth in Jesus Christ?" Well, you know how that verse goes, "Love your neighbor as yourself"? If you aren't loving yourself, you can't love anyone else. This kind of thinking creates unhealthy relationships. Do you see patterns in your life where you are constantly negative, even in the smallest of ways to the people around you? Do you find that when you're alone you can't stand it? Do you dread looking at yourself in the mirror after you get out of the shower, with no make up on and no push-up bra to add to your beauty?
f you answered, "Yes!" to any of these questions, then you are in desperate need of some good JTLC (Jesus' Tender Love and Care). With such a negative stream of commentary flowing through your mind, you can start becoming selfish. Selfish in your time spent with the mirror and a makeup brush. Selfish in the way you can't be a friend to another girl because you are constantly comparing yourself to her. Selfish in the way you can only think of your flaws, getting to the point where you can't see the pain in anyone else's heart. We can't be intentional and invest in authentic relationships when we are crippled by our insecurities.
If I would have had a boyfriend or husband or anything of the sort whom I loved dearly, the "going unnoticed thing" wouldn't even have bothered me. But, since the Lord has blessed me with singleness, often in my weaker times, not being noticed can hurt. Sometimes, the seeds of doubt creep into my mind that something is wrong with me because I am single. If you are feeling this way now, that is a lie! Singleness is a blessing, I have gotten so close to the Lord during this time. I know that sounds like a cliché, and I try my best to avoid them, but this one is so true. When a sister in Christ or a sister from birth gets in a relationship or is noticed, be joyous for her. Because, that's what love is. There is no room for jealousy. If those feelings creep in, rebuke them, because they're not of God.
JTLC requires time in the Word, pursuing a life that resembles Jesus' life of love, peace, and an unshakable faith (Ephesians 6:10). Out of all these, faith is the most vital when being single and maintaining hope. Faith will keep you from bitterness. Faith will remind you that Jesus sees you as His beautiful one (Song of Solomon 2:1-17), and that He will not withhold anything good from you (Psalm 84:11).
After I sulked for a little bit that Kip Moore didn't notice me, I bucked up, looked at myself in the mirror, asked my Savior to reveal to me what He sees in me and waited. Waited, not for a guy, but for the Lover of My Soul to show me the beauty He sees within me. Instead of asking men or parents or friends for affirmation, ask Jesus. I promise, He will be faithful. Just ask.
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