You'd woven them into the fabric of the future. Now, that fabric is shattered because they were a key element of it. Either by using substitutes to get you back on track, or by shear determination, start making a new bucket list of what you'd love to be and do and have in your life in the future. Some part of your brain might scream "there is no future without... " but there's another part of your heart saying "oh, yes there is, bigger and better than ever before" the key here is not to let guilt about moving forward stop you. Sometimes the gift of a heartbreak is that it frees you up to
a bigger story than you were living before. This is, at the end of the day, where healing a broken heart begins.
Love little things... Heartbreak comes to it's darkest moment when it spreads like a virus and begins to tamper with your taste buds, your hearing, your eye sight, your finger tips, your sense of smell. So, please be sensitive to the importance of the senses. Feed them small meals of love.
Touch a tree trunk and feel the grain, taste a herbal tea or a sweet leaf of a herb you love, stroke a dog or listen to some soft meditation music. Avoid sensory triggers that remind you of the missing void in your life but instead add new ones. Add new foods, new music, new smells, new views, new environments. Avoid places that are going to make you focus on the missing and instead find places and sensory love bites that remind you of the beauty and possibility of your life and future. Think small things and expand from there.
Focus on the Cause... Heartbreak comes from a dependency on something on someone. This dependency is courageous because you were prepared to be so vulnerable and surrender a whole lot of more secure and self-contained living patterns to become attached to something or someone. You could have been less dependent on that job, or treated the cat with less affection, you could have been less interdependent on your partner or money for that matter. So, you have had incredible courage to be in a place where your heart is broken. That courage is love. You have loved something completely and that's what it takes to be a real person. The courage to truly love. And that's why it hurts. But ultimately, love goes one step more. Love is also letting go. The cause of heartbreak is the unwillingness to love that one step more, unconditional love. To love something so completely, whether they are here or gone, with you or not with you, doing what you expected or not doing what you expected. This is what is needed. Not withdrawal or anger or hurt or pain. What is needed is for you to love them or it, more. To move to the point of unconditional love. It applies to money as well as cats and people. To love is to release, and to release is to begin a new chapter. Freedom.
Begin a deliberate re-inventing your life process. For me, the best I can find is my Back on Track model. Start with the seven points above, then move to your "Health Programme" and create a whole new health focus. Then, move to your environment and really make a whole new space at home and at work including your clothes. Move to Brand You... your wisdom, your resume, your capability and regain that confidence in you as you. Then, step 5, your VIP, get that bucket list out, start imagining the future, start dreaming of just a few ideas you'd love to be and do and have. And finally, which is where you may need some external support, start to believe that the best you is yet to come, that there's a whole ramp of possibilities within you, unexplored and ready to be expressed. This is the future.
Chris Walker is a visionary business consultant and of the world's leading
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