Teach your kids to listen, take turns speaking, use kind
words,refrain from criticism or physical violence, and come
to a compromise whenever possible. These skills will serve
them well in all areas of their lives.
Do not compare.
As parents, it can be difficult not to compare children. Each
child has their own unique gifts to foster and challenges to face
as they grow. Try to focus on acknowledging and appreciating
their gifts and encouraging everyone in the family to do so.
When they are struggling with behaviors that other kids may
not have found challenging, be patient and help them work
through it as a family. When kids feel like their parents are
comparing them, it can cause jealousy, competition, and
resentment. Alternatively, when they feel like their gifts are
cultivated and appreciated they feel loved, valued, and secure.
It also helps kids to understand that all of us are different and
that is okay.
Remind them of the importance of family.
Our siblings are our first friends. They have a unique
perspective and relationship to us because they have
experienced nearly everything we have during childhood. This
often leads to a relationship that includes deep understanding
and support for challenges we may face in the future. This
concept is difficult to explain to small children, however the
importance of family is something that can be shown through
actions rather than explained using words. Do you have a good
relationship with your own siblings? Do you support them in
times of need and enjoy spending time with them? Your kids
will notice. Over time, they will realize that there is nothing
like a sibling who is also a friend.
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