Create a daily rhythm.
While it isn’t necessary, or even helpful,
to be so rigid as to have every detail of the
day planned out, it is very helpful to create
a daily rhythm, or a flow to the day that
children can generally count on. This daily
rhythm creates a stable foundation, and
knowing what comes next makes children
feel secure and helps them transition more
easily.
In addition, once the habit is well-formed,
the rhythm becomes “the boss” in many
ways. Children understand that after dinner
it is time to bath, for example, and there is
less push-back. A daily rhythm isn’t only
soothing for children but has been shown to
also help parents feel more competent and
confident.
Stick to the routine.
Within the daily rhythm, routines make
parenting easier. It isn’t just knowing what
to expect; it’s also about connection points
throughout the day. Sweet bedtime rituals
and mealtime conversations serve to bring
us back to each other in the midst of a busy
life. Being connected and knowing what to
expect are two important aspects that bring
peace to our homes, and intentional, loving
routines accomplish both.
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