I ’ m reminded of a quote by Dr . Gordon Neufeld , parent educator and founder of The Neufeld Institute . “ All growth emanates from a place of rest .” He ’ s speaking here of how children will experience better physical , mental , and emotional growth when they are not striving for our love and attention . The same is true for adults , I believe . We will best grow into our highest and best selves not through difficult striving and running from shame but through resting in self-love and acceptance . Until we change the beliefs that we hold about ourselves , we can ’ t become better , and only when we learn to love ourselves do we realize that we were good enough all along . When I rest in love , I can grow . •
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