• Remind them of their superpowers. Having a stub-
born streak will land strong-willed children in hot
water. It comes with the territory. However, when
they are reprimanded repeatedly, they can devel-
op a negative view of themselves. “How come I’m
always the one getting in trouble,” you may have
heard your strong-willed child say. It’s impera-
tive for your strong-willed child to view their te-
nacious streak as a strength as well, and that they
do indeed possess a superpower they need to learn
to harness. To illustrate this, I have leaned on Elsa,
the Disney ice queen. Before learning how to har-
ness her powers, she used them clumsily. But once
she knew how to harness it, her powers became a
thing of beauty and good. In the process of teach-
ing your child how to harness her superpowers,
it’s also important not to compare your child to a
more easy-going sibling or friend, who possesses
inherently different qualities and propensities al-
together.
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