special feature
We interrupt nature ’ s brilliant process of brain adaption any time we shame , ignore , or punish a child for crying . A young child who is repeatedly dismissed or treated harshly for expressing vulnerability will begin to suppress their feelings and try to stop those tears from coming . This does not take away the emotional hurt . Instead of processing it through tears of sadness , it may be expressed as aggression because a young child cannot release their frustration in a soft and vulnerable way .
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