Solution Three - Positive Discipline
Punishments , threats , and lectures will only erode trust and trigger pushback . Instead , set yourself up for success first by strengthening your relationship through quality time , laughter , and play . A secure attachment with you will increase your influence . When an issue arises , problem-solve together to find a solution . Ask the following questions : What caused this to happen ? How do you feel about this ? What could you do differently next time ? How are you going to fix this ? When you help your child to understand what was driving their own behavior and to make a plan to do better , you ’ re empowering them to take responsibility for their own actions . Teach them the necessary regulation skills needed to manage their emotions and give them tools for better behavior . This is much more effective than losing an iPad . Solutions are better than punishments because children need to learn to fix their mistakes , not just pay for them . •
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