COVERED Edition 2 Issue 2 | Page 12

I tried my best to find myself and started associating with the wrong crowd at work…Lol, peer pressure. That is when I met him! He was married too and we got on like a house on fire. In retrospect, I think it was more physical then emotional. That was my first time becoming the MISTRESS! It did not last too long. However, it made me feel wanted, needed and beautiful again. The feeling made me powerful. So I moved on to the next affair. This time I had more control of the situation. Knowing exactly what my intentions were. I wanted to be the only one that he thought of when he was not with me. I would have him running after me and the feeling was tremendously powerful. I used the fact that my husband did this to me, so I can do the same. The thought seem to remove all guilt that I once felt. It was only when I connected on an emotional level with another man that I came to realise, I was the one being fooled. I started chatting to different women who were in similar situations to me. They all shared similar experiences. Feeling neglected at home, revenge on their cheating spouse and off course the thrill of it, that intense power of control. By chatting it seemed be some form of rehabilitation for myself. I found talking to other people who could relate made it more sensible. I realised I was not alone. The main lesson I learnt was that I had turned into the one person I despised the most, ‘The Other Woman!’ I decided I needed to change. I needed to change my focus. It did not happen overnight, however as I gradually submitted to ALLAH, I noticed the change from within myself.