Cornerstone Magazine Fall 2015 - Page 4

Letter from the Editor Committing Amidst Shopping We live in an age where to commit is to limit. This is an age where marriage is seen as nothing more than a certificate that puts constraints on a relationship. In our society, the highest expression of love is conditioned not on commitment, but consent. We are constantly, restlessly searching for new things to do, new classes to shop, new people to meet. To commit is to put yourself into a box, where you are defined by the body you belong to. Against that, the desire to be free from obligations and rules pulls us away from commitment. I propose an alternative position: commitment is in fact the best way we can show love to one another. Let’s break down what secular society is telling us. Society is telling us that love is defined by full, unconditional, and unlimited acceptance. If you stop right there, I will give a resounding amen to that. God does love us fully, unconditionally, and limitlessly. What I feel has gone wrong, however, is when we take that to the extreme and say that love means letting the loved one do whatever he or she wants. This is the exact mindset that pushes back on the concept of marriage because to the skeptics, all marriage does is restrict what one can and cannot do within its confines. In response to that, pastor and author Timothy Keller, in The Meaning of Marriage, writes, … when someone says, “I don’t need a piece of paper to show love,” you might say, “Yes, you do. If you love the way the Bible describes the love of two people who want to share their lives together, you should have no problem making a legal, permanent, exclusive commitment.” Keller goes on to argue that the very act of entering into holy matrimony with a loved one is one of the highest expressions of love that one can display. Yes, we will definitely fall short of the wedding vows we make, but the genuine commitment to strive for them is itself a beau Y