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The Myth of Pandora many books on the subject, such as Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living the Rest of your Life, Marcus Aurelius’  Meditations, some teachings of Jesus. The following are highlights worth sharing. I’ve learned to ask myself these questions: 1. Do I tend to put off living in the present in order to worry about the future, or to yearn for some magical rose garden over the horizon? 2. Do I sometimes embitter the agreed to accept. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. Those who do not know how to fight worry, die young. And lawyers are so prone to intolerable stress. Fear of the unknown kicks in our survival instincts, our “reptilian brain.” Rationality goes out the window. The adrenal glands fire like a machine gun. We revert to our atavistic instincts, and logic takes a vacation. We want to either fight or run—or both. “... there seems to be a remedy that might reach a solution to the problem of ensuring that debtors are able to receive the protection of bankruptcy and permitting the bankruptcy attorneys to receive their fees.” present by regretting things that happened in the past— that are over and done with? 3. Do I get up in the morning determined to seize the day to get the utmost out of these 24 hours? 4. When shall I start to do this? Next week? Tomorrow? Today? The next time trouble backs you up in a corner, ask yourself “What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can’t solve this problem?” Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst—if necessary. Then calmly improve on the worst—which you’ve already mentally In other words— worrying is not good. Half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient information on which to base a decision. Instead, after carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision. Then, get busy carrying out your decision—and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome. Smart businessmen use this technique when presented with a problem: A. What is the problem? B. What is the cause of the problem? C. What are all possible solutions? D. What is the best solution? This is a system for occupying a nonstop mind like mine. § Crowd worry out of your National Association of Consumer Bankruptcy Attorneys Summer 2015 mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing the bedeviling anxiety (sometimes it takes more coffee than I can handle). § Don’t fuss about trifles. Don’t permit little things—the mere termites of life—to ruin your happiness. Put them in a box and forget about them. (Men can do this “compartment” trick a bit easier than woman, unless that man is prone to obsessing, like this author). § Use the law of averages to outweigh your worries? Ask yourself: “What are the odds against this thing happening at all?” (As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”) § Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know circumstances are beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself: “It is so; it cannot be otherwise.” § Put a stop loss order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth— and refuse to give it anymore. Bury the past as if it were dead. Don’t saw sawdust.   Seven ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness: 1. Let’s fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health and hope because our life is what our thoughts make it. Shakespeare said it. So did Marcus Aurelius. 2. Never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them (yet I still carry grudges). 3. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, resign yourself and expect it. Jesus healed 10 lepers in one day—and only CONSUMER BANKRUPTCY JOURNAL 49