Connections Quarterly Winter 2019 - Restorative Practices - Page 45

PA RE N T TI PS • Experiment with techniques that equip you to facilitate restorative communica- tion in response to misbehavior. Here is an example that involves creating a space for mutual understanding that leads to a shared action plan. Siblings are arguing over Legos. Parent takes a calming breath, and invites them to join in a discussion by asking Sib 1, “What do you want Sib 2 to know?” to which Sib 1 says, “I want to play with his Legos.” Par- ent asks, “Sib 2, what do you hear Sib 1 saying”? Sib 2 says, “She wants my Legos.” Parent gets confirmation from Sib 1 that she’s been heard accurately, then asks Sib 2 what he wants Sib 1 to know, and he responds, “I’m using the Legos.” Parent asks Sib 1 what she’s heard, and she responds, “He doesn’t want to share.” Parent then asks for ideas to solve the issue. (Check out Dr. Elaine Shpungin’s post: blog/peacemeal/201010/3-steps-transform-sibling-conflict-sibling-camaraderie to see that the micro-circle resulted in sharing.) l Julie Stevens is a parent, former school psychologist, and former independent school teacher. She has written numerous articles on parenting and moral growth that can be found on LGBTQ Educator’s Gathering Santa Monica, CA • February 7, 2020 What is unique about the experiences of LGBTQ educators in independent schools? How do our experiences impact our professional growth, what we con- tribute to our school communities, and to the development of our students? Join CSEE’s first gathering for LGBTQ educators to explore these questions, col- laborate, and share resources. The day will include a keynote address, a panel of LGBTQ independent school leaders, and an opportunity for participants to con- nect with each other and reflect on challenges and opportunities. see more at CSEE Connections Summer 2019 Page 43