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Experiment with techniques that equip you to facilitate restorative communica-
tion in response to misbehavior. Here is an example that involves creating a space for
mutual understanding that leads to a shared action plan. Siblings are arguing over Legos.
Parent takes a calming breath, and invites them to join in a discussion by asking Sib 1,
“What do you want Sib 2 to know?” to which Sib 1 says, “I want to play with his Legos.” Par-
ent asks, “Sib 2, what do you hear Sib 1 saying”? Sib 2 says, “She wants my Legos.” Parent
gets confirmation from Sib 1 that she’s been heard accurately, then asks Sib 2 what he
wants Sib 1 to know, and he responds, “I’m using the Legos.” Parent asks Sib 1 what she’s
heard, and she responds, “He doesn’t want to share.” Parent then asks for ideas to solve
the issue. (Check out Dr. Elaine Shpungin’s post: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/
blog/peacemeal/201010/3-steps-transform-sibling-conflict-sibling-camaraderie to see
that the micro-circle resulted in sharing.) l
Julie Stevens is a parent, former school psychologist, and former independent school teacher. She
has written numerous articles on parenting and moral growth that can be found on csee.org.
LGBTQ Educator’s Gathering
Santa Monica, CA • February 7, 2020
What is unique about the experiences of LGBTQ educators in independent
schools? How do our experiences impact our professional growth, what we con-
tribute to our school communities, and to the development of our students?
Join CSEE’s first gathering for LGBTQ educators to explore these questions, col-
laborate, and share resources. The day will include a keynote address, a panel of
LGBTQ independent school leaders, and an opportunity for participants to con-
nect with each other and reflect on challenges and opportunities.
see more at www.csee.org/event/LGBTQ
CSEE Connections
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