Connections Quarterly Summer 2020 - Dialogues Across Difference | Page 36

Teacher Tips: Dialogues Across Difference by Robert Munro H ow can we promote dialogues across differences if we’re social distancing, as we have been for quite a few weeks now? Logic would have it that the techniques and skills elu- cidated in this Connections require face- to-face interaction. Indeed, dialogue is, perhaps, the conversation medium that requires us to be most present with one another, to on-the-spot evaluate and re- spond to emotions, rhetoric, and body language. If we can remain mindful of these things during a dialogue, we al- low ourselves and others to be truly at- tentive, receptive, and empathetic. So, again, how can we foster these essential and important skills if we’re not present with one another? The answer is, in fact, right in the title: instead of our focusing on how dialogue can help us navigate difficult moments, The contributors to this edition of Con- nections have graciously shared their years of collective experiences and wis- dom on the increasing need for all of us to embrace the model of dialogue for our school communities. Below I’ll attempt to synthesize the tools they promote as it relates to our schools during this spring and summer away from one another: Dialogue Over Debate and Mediation The purpose of a dialogue is mutual un- derstanding of others’ needs, viewpoints, and perspectives. It’s a combination of empathy mixed with fact-based justifica- tions. Whereas dialogues presuppose we do more listening than speaking, ques- tion-asking than answering, and a com- fort with the discomfort that comes with not always reaching a solution, debates differ in that they require one party to successfully prove their opinion is better than another, while a mediation seeks to find a solution or compromise between two divergent perspectives. Dialogues are so critical for our school communi- ties because it allows us to be present “... this very real moment of ‘difference’—our global CO- VID-19 crisis—requires that we embrace dialogue in all its forms for the betterment of our individual emotional health, and for the greater health and wellness of national and global communities.” Page 34 Summer 2020 microaggressions, and general “differ- ences,” I posit that we flip the script, as it were, and recognize how this very real moment of “difference”—our global CO- VID-19 crisis—requires that we embrace dialogue in all its forms for the better- ment of our individual emotional health, and for the greater health and wellness of national and global communities. CSEE Connections