Connections Quarterly Summer 2019 - Gender | Page 17

SUPPO R T I NG T R ANS G END ER & G END ER N O N CO N FO RM I N G S TU D E N TS people, with whom transgender individu- als are often grouped. LGB people generally anticipate being seen as LGB their entire lives; having a partner of the same gender is usually visible and acceptance includes others acknowledging a different-looking couple. Many transgender people, especial- ly those going through adolescence when conformity is often a desire, simply want to be treated as their preferred gender. Accep- tance does not always include being “out.” questions about genitalia are frequently directed to trans people as if other people have the right to know what is underneath their clothing. Invite guest speakers who are transgender and willing to speak about their experi- ences. Outside speakers are usually open to responding to questions from cisgender people that might be inappropriate in typi- cal conversation. At Sheridan, we hosted the author Alex Myers who shared his own experience and specifically taught our com- munity about the impact of personal ques- tions on transgender people. Subsequently, he offered to answer some of those ques- tions himself in an effort to educate our community and shield our transgender stu- dents from those questions. “Many transgender people, especially those going through adoles- cence when conformity is often a desire, simply want to be treated as their pre- ferred gender. Acceptance does not always include being ‘out.’” Examine Your Curriculum Even though we teach that gender is a spectrum, many schools still divide boys and girls for sex education classes which contradicts the curriculum and implies that deep down everyone does fall into one gen- der bucket or the other. We often separate boys and girls because we want to teach them separately about their own bodies; but, not all students identifying as one gen- der have the sexual body parts associated with that gender, and students who identify as gender non-binary do not fit into either bucket. Research also suggests that as many as one percent of people are biologically intersex which further complicates our de- As a society, those in dominant groups often feel like they can ask personal questions of underrepresented people. This is commonly seen in schools when families of color are disproportionately asked to share their ex- periences and lead multicultural endeav- ors. Transgender and gender nonconform- ist people are often asked highly personal questions by otherwise well-meaning peo- ple. While we would never think of asking a typical student about their private parts, Continues on page 16 CSEE Connections Summer 2019 Page 15