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SU PPO R T I NG T R ANS G END ER & G END ER N O N CO N FO RM I N G S TU D E N TS Teach Everyone About Gender “Teachers especially need comfortable language to use. We have to be aware that our school cultures often adhere to fairly strict gender norms and, un- less examined, passively marginalize students.” Most faculty and staff did not learn or talk about these issues when they were in school and, even when well-intentioned, do not have the experience or tools to en- gage in gender discussions. Moreover, since talking about sex and gender can be sensi- tive, many teachers and non-teaching staff fear saying the wrong thing and avoid en- gaging in constructive conversation or re- sponding to offensive behavior. They need to know that the school will support them when teaching students responsibly about gender and when calling out transphobic and gender-conformist behavior within the community. In addition to written school policies, meeting time needs to be dedicat- ed to training all staff. During this training, teach critical content, make room for naive questions, and role play possible scenarios that staff might encounter. Likewise, students need direct instruction on gender and gender identity. This may fit into your school’s sexuality education, science, or social studies classes; it needs to be a regular and intentional part of the school’s curriculum. These classes should teach the difference between biological sex and gender, explain that both may be ambiguous and along a spectrum of ex- pression, and explore how privacy and per- sonal preference matter a great deal when being supportive. Teachers especially need comfortable lan- guage to use. We have to be aware that our school cultures often adhere to fairly strict gender norms and, unless examined, pas- sively marginalize students. While we are better at anticipating that some of our stu- dents may come from nontraditional family structures and have gotten away from say- ing, “Go ask your mom and dad” by default, we often still ask boys to help move furni- ture and girls to bring snacks for the bake sale. Enforcing gender roles and norms damages all of our students since they will all, at some point in their lives, have inter- ests and experiences that do not conform to traditional male and female roles. Provide Specific Support for Gender Nonconforming Individuals If you have transgender students, it is es- sential to proactively reach out to them be- fore they have to sit through classes about gender identity. Parents and school coun- selors often know how best to reach out ahead of time so that transgender students feel as comfortable as possible. Some stu- dents would rather have that conversation at home while others may prefer to speak with a trusted adult at school. If they are out, they are likely to think all eyes are on Continues on page 14 CSEE Connections Summer 2019 Page 13