COMMUNICATION: How To Flirt, Start Conversations And Keep Them Going? In Depth Guide to Approaching, Flirting and Dating | Page 67

Don’t
− Fold your arms. This gives the impression you’re closed, distant or uncomfortable.
− Use pick-up lines. They are insincere, unoriginal and make the ‘flirtee’ feel as if they’re being
played.
A simple ‘Hello, I’m Mike’ will do nicely.
− Put yourself down. Accept all compliments with modesty and grace.
If you don’t like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?
− Take rejection personally. Sometimes you will hit it off, many times you’ll be turned down.
If it doesn’t work out, move on.
− Use chat up lines. Fact: they don’t work.
− Fidget. And men, never ever stand jiggling the contents of your pockets. It’s frankly disturbing.
− Cross your arms in front of your chest. It immediately implies you’re on the defensive.
− Look down when you’re speaking or you’ll come across as shifty and paranoid.
− Punctuate sentences with ‘y’know’ or nervous ‘huh’ sounds. It smacks of a total lack of confidence.
− Bite nails, pick at cuticles or heaven forbid scrape the dirt from beneath the tips.

When good flirting goes bad
Now that you are a super-flirt, don’t think that the first person to fall for
your new-found charms will automatically be The One. As the most
experienced fisherman will tell you, when it comes to releasing a
throwback, the key phrase is ‘gently does it’
Nicci, a happy-to-be-single, admits that she’ll usually just lie. ‘I’ve been
known to invent a boyfriend and occasionally give out the wrong phone
number so I don’t have to fend off unwanted calls later on.’
Her flatmate Samantha is more direct, saying, ‘Most people can tell
when there isn’t a spark, but for those who can’t, I just tell them straight.
Usually, it’s along the lines of “you seem like a really great guy, but I’m
just not feeling a connection, so it’s best we don’t pursue it.” (Ouch.)
Ultimately, make sure that whichever method you choose to dismiss
unwanted attention (even if it is in the form of the worst pick-up line
ever), don’t humiliate or publicly embarrass your would-be suitor especially since the more suitable candidates will get the impression you are completely unapproachable.

Flirting=fun
Ultimately, flirting isn’t really about how you look, act or what you say, but more about how you make the other
person feel. With realistic expectations and a little bit of chutzpah, you will find that meeting new people and mak