Coaching World Issue 15: August 2015 | Page 21

small, singular steps she can take (e.g.,replacing one soft drink per day with a glass of water, eating one piece of fruit in lieu of a candy bar). Successfully making the substitution is an accomplishment that makes it easier to take one more tiny step. As your client’s small steps accumulate, she’ll likely notice her habits are changing, and instead of the little efforts feeling onerous, they will start feeling good. The anxiety of not doing something right or the fear of failure can slow our clients down or cause them to grind to a halt. Small steps offer an antidote: Rather than feeling overwhelmed with a big task, our clients can approach what needs to be done with small actions. Instead of anxiety, the experience of continual small movements in the desired direction brings pleasure and a sense of accomplishment. When breaking tasks down into bite-size pieces, new behaviors are born without setting off familiar, selflimiting, fear-laden reactions. Smaller Steps, Great Gains Benefits your clients get from starting small can include: • A perspective shift • Quietly yet steadily overcoming inaction • Building new experience on how to “do” • Progressive incremental results • Momentum • Enthusiasm and satisfaction • Procrastination becomes history • Dancing past ambivalence • Trumping delay • Gaining a growth template Small steps are the path to making a new habit. For clients to break through and start something new, it’s useful to do one thing of any size consistently to feed the original desire and grow stamina. A small, daily effort will become a habit which strengthens the inner relationship with the self. It’s not only the absence of struggle and discomfort but this adherence to little actions eventuall 䁉ե