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I try to get to the Archie each year (Archibald Art Exhibition) not because I’m crazy about art but interested in the way an artist uses their skills and talents to capture real Australians, warts and all. This year my favorite was Gary McDonald by Kirsty Neilson titled “ There’s no humour in darkness”. Kirsty explained why actor and comedian Gary McDonald famous for his hilarious portrayal of Norman Gunstan and Arthur Beare in Mother and Son was her choice to paint. She had seen Gary on Australian story, talking about how he had suffered from major anxiety and depression, which lead to a nervous breakdown. Anxiety and depression take you to a very dark place. Kirsty captured this brilliantly with a dark background. Mental Illness is such a personal experience which is why she chose to paint Gary side on, no eye contact, and hand on his head emphasizing the mind as a battlefield, the area we need to conquer. HighAnxieties.org says that Depression is not a joke! It’s a real illness that doesn’t discriminate, no amount of money or fame can fix it. The funniest man on earth couldn’t just think positive and be healed. Support those who are battling depression and other mental health issues. It takes lives! (RIP Robin Williams) 3 million Australians are living with depression or anxiety right now! www.healthyPlace.com gives some helpful advice on what NOT to say to someone who is depressed. • you just need to give yourself a kick in the rear. • no one ever said life was fair. • there are a lot of people worse off than you. • well, everyone gets depressed sometimes! • maybe you should take vitamins for your stress. • you need a hobby. • just pull yourself together. • just try a little harder. • you have no reason to feel this way. • • • • • you will be ok, just hang in there, it will pass. you don’t like feeling that way? so change it. you have it so good, why aren’t you happy? I thought you were stronger than that. snap out of it, will you? None of these are helpful to someone who has depression! I think another actor and comedian; Stephen Fry said it best; “If you know someone who is depressed please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather”. Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness and loneliness they’re going though. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who is depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest and best things you will ever do. Beyond Blue offers very helpful information from their Website: www.beyondblue.org.au Support in Recovery Recovery can take time and is different for everyone. As well as getting treatment underway, you’ll need to find new ways to manage and live with the changes and challenges of anxiety and/or depression. While psychological and/or medical treatment can help with your recovery, there are many other ways you can help yourself to get better and stay well. Recovery is an individual process with stages that everyone moves through at different rates. However, there are some common emotions that many people may experience. 1. Shock at having to deal with something difficult and scary that you have no prior experience of. 2. Denial or difficulty in accepting having a health problem, particularly one that many people find hard to understand. 3. Despair and Anger at having to deal with the condition and its related difficulties. 4. Acceptance of having a condition and the changes it brings, and accepting how others see you and how you see yourself. 5. Coping by finding new ways to live with and tackle these changes and challenges. Available Support There is no one proven way that people recover from anxiety or depression, and it’s different for everybody. However, there are a range of effective treatments and health professionals who can help you on the road to recovery. There are also many things you can do to help yourself to recover and stay well. The important thing is finding the right treatment and the right health professional that works for you. Different types of anxiety or depression require different types of treatment. This may include physical exercise or peer coaching for preventing and treating mild anxiety and depression, through to psychological and medical treatment for more severe episodes. The recovery process doesn’t necessarily have a clear beginning, middle and end. Some people will only experience one episode of depression or anxiety in their lives, while others may go on to have another episode, or experience recurring symptoms of depression and/or anxiety that need to be managed. Staying well is about finding a balance that works for you, but there are some general principles that most people find useful. These include reducing and managing your stress levels, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, cutting back on alcohol and drugs, and taking action early if you start experiencing symptoms of depression or anxiety. It’s also important to deal with any setbacks and keep trying. Beyondblue 1300 22 4636 Lifeline 13 11 14 CMAACare Helpline 1300 464 262 IQ 27