THAT ’ S WHERE THE REAL MONEY HIDES
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LEARN TO TREAT YOURSELF
WITH VALUE
THAT ’ S WHERE THE REAL MONEY HIDES
Money is just a scoring system . It determines what we can buy , but it also often measures how important we ’ re perceived to be . voice and excellent posture , and you ’ ll look like you know and respect your own value .
3 . Make a plan .
There ’ s always something that tempts you to reach for your wallet . If you ’ ve already decided how to distribute your basic income , then the temptations that come up are easily prioritized . You either have a place for them in oney is a cruel trickster
M that can undermine confidence and ability . It causes us to feel falsely inferior with less of it , falsely superior with more of it , and fearful when we think we don ’ t have enough of it .
But money is just a scoring system . It determines what we can buy , but it also often measures how important we ’ re perceived to be .
Here are three points of leverage to help you build a stronger relationship with money and the attributes that money represents .
1 . Don ’ t just increase your bank account , increase your value .
Those who think money is to pile up and focus their efforts on making the stack grow taller , will inevitably come to the day when there ’ ll be a critical need that money can ’ t buy . It may be in the fields of health , knowledge , respect , or love – but it will be immune to the number of digits in your cash accumulation .
Learning , exercising , helping others , and tracking your results are investments that boost your true value . When your value to others exceeds your cost to them , you ’ re a gem to those with money to spend on your services . It ’ s the people who have built their bank accounts without building their valuable knowledge , relationships , and support systems that become the targets of those who would take more from your stash than they ’ ll put in .
2 . Have a level gaze .
When talking about money or value , don ’ t let the topics embarrass you . There are workers who earn less at their jobs because they can ’ t raise their eyes to meet the boss ’ s eyes when they ask for a raise . If the decision-maker sees your eyes looking down , that ’ s a subconscious signal that you won ’ t fight when your estimated worth goes down .
When you have a hard time clearly stating your value according to the monetary scoring system , it might mean that you don ’ t feel confident expressing your worth , or it could be a subtle signal to others that you actually know that you or your product aren ’ t worth what they ’ d be willing to pay for quality .
Looking straight into the eyes of the person you want to believe in you will demonstrate that you believe in your own value . Support that with a strong