THAT’ S WHERE THE REAL MONEY HIDES
14 CHOICES | 2013 SPRING ISSUE
LEARN TO TREAT YOURSELF
WITH VALUE
THAT’ S WHERE THE REAL MONEY HIDES
Money is just a scoring system. It determines what we can buy, but it also often measures how important we’ re perceived to be. voice and excellent posture, and you’ ll look like you know and respect your own value.
3. Make a plan.
There’ s always something that tempts you to reach for your wallet. If you’ ve already decided how to distribute your basic income, then the temptations that come up are easily prioritized. You either have a place for them in oney is a cruel trickster
M that can undermine confidence and ability. It causes us to feel falsely inferior with less of it, falsely superior with more of it, and fearful when we think we don’ t have enough of it.
But money is just a scoring system. It determines what we can buy, but it also often measures how important we’ re perceived to be.
Here are three points of leverage to help you build a stronger relationship with money and the attributes that money represents.
1. Don’ t just increase your bank account, increase your value.
Those who think money is to pile up and focus their efforts on making the stack grow taller, will inevitably come to the day when there’ ll be a critical need that money can’ t buy. It may be in the fields of health, knowledge, respect, or love – but it will be immune to the number of digits in your cash accumulation.
Learning, exercising, helping others, and tracking your results are investments that boost your true value. When your value to others exceeds your cost to them, you’ re a gem to those with money to spend on your services. It’ s the people who have built their bank accounts without building their valuable knowledge, relationships, and support systems that become the targets of those who would take more from your stash than they’ ll put in.
2. Have a level gaze.
When talking about money or value, don’ t let the topics embarrass you. There are workers who earn less at their jobs because they can’ t raise their eyes to meet the boss’ s eyes when they ask for a raise. If the decision-maker sees your eyes looking down, that’ s a subconscious signal that you won’ t fight when your estimated worth goes down.
When you have a hard time clearly stating your value according to the monetary scoring system, it might mean that you don’ t feel confident expressing your worth, or it could be a subtle signal to others that you actually know that you or your product aren’ t worth what they’ d be willing to pay for quality.
Looking straight into the eyes of the person you want to believe in you will demonstrate that you believe in your own value. Support that with a strong