STELLA WARE
Psychic Tarot Reader, Reiki Healer and Teacher.
hen we are first thrust into this world from the womb of our Mother we are totally dependent of another for our every need. We need somebody to feed and clean us, somebody to take care of our warmth and comfort. We rely on the love of another to help us grow and to feel part of this world. Even though we are unable to move around or feed ourselves, we are still capable of getting our every need taken care of with the power of our lungs, we cry and squawk like wild things until somebody takes the time to see what all the noise is about and endeavours to make us happy again. Is this the beginning of our determination to survive in this world, to show our power and to have another running around after us? As we grow older, our need for independence rears its head very early on, we want to become strong enough to lift our heads to look around and take in all the new wonders that this world has to offer, and then our next instinct is to crawl, then stand and walk, so that nothing is beyond our reach. We want to be the one holding the spoon at meal times, even if the food ends up at the other side of the room, so we learn to eat using our fingers, and explore the sensation of taste, deciding what we like to eat and what we would rather not. There is so much learning crammed in to the first couple of years of life that it is amazing to try and comprehend that by the age of 3 we have come so far removed from the helpless little newborn that we started in this world as. It is human nature to want to discover new things and have new experiences, fear is an emotion that is learnt and comes to us as we develop our intellect. We are told that if we do a certain action we will experience pain and if it is drummed into us enough we decide that we never wish to experience that pain so we will never do that action, But before we understand the meaning behind the words that are used to keep us safe, we go right ahead and try the action, and therefore experience the pain. Two different ways of learning, both, causing fear. How much do we let fear hold us back from achieving our hearts desire? How many times are we willing to go ahead and experience the pain? Of course this is determined by the individual, and the way they have been kept safe from actions that could hurt them. Whether the pain is physical pain or emotional pain, both of these things invoke fear and make us question whether our beliefs are worth holding onto and whether we should step out of our comfort zones and try something new. The way our minds work is very much down to the conditioning that we have received whilst growing up. Some parents will encourage their offspring to try new things; others will try to keep them wrapped up safely in cotton wool for as long as is humanly possible.
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How, as a parent, do you decide which way you will raise your children? It is preferable to be somewhere safely in the middle of the two extremes and most parents just naturally manage to do a great job. This brings us to adults that are intelligent enough to understand that certain things are not good for them, and yet their very nature compels them to want to try new things, as many new things as they can, in order to experience as much of this world as is possible. Enter the adrenalin junkie who takes extreme sport very seriously, and would rather take the risk than miss out on the experience, this personality type finds thrill in the danger that they put themselves in. On the other end of the scale are the type of people who would not even consider doing anything remotely ‘out there’ or dangerous and would perhaps shy away from a fast car ride. This personality type is often introverted, and very quiet. Again most of us are usually tucked into the middle somewhere and enjoy the thrill of something new but have enough fear to keep us safe. We hear over and over that fear is not an emotion that we want to have, we should let go of fear and have faith that things will turn out for the best. We are told that fear leads to anger which leads in turn to dis-ease within the body. But is fear really that bad for us? My personal feeling is that fear has a very important place in our lives, and that whilst we do not want to live in constant fear or everything and everyone it is very healthy to understand what fear is and why we feel the emotion. It is important to accept that fear is part of the vast range of human emotions and has a very important role in making us whole. Never dismiss fear or feel upset with yourself for feeling afraid. The important part to remember is to not hold on to the fear; do not let the fear consume you and your actions. Fear comes to us as a warning, a reminder to stop and use our intellect before we take action that may indeed cause us pain or anguish. Once we reach adulthood we are expected to be completely independent of anybody else in our decisions and actions. We are expected to have enough intelligence to know what is acceptable and what is not, and fear plays an im ?'F?B&??R?????v??rW2F?6??WfRF??2?v?V??W"&?G?F?7??2?V??F????B?2&V6W6R?B?2F?R&W7BV??F???F?BvR6??fR??F?B??7F?BF?W?&W72??rvR&R&V??fVV??r??B?2?v?2v??B&7F?6RF????rF?RV??F????G2?6R??BF?V?FV6?FR?b??R&R???F??r??F??Bf?"F?????r?B???v??r?BF?6W6R??R&?&?V?2?vR6??V?B6???v?VFvR?W"&?v?BF??fRfV"??vW"??W'B?Bg'W7G&F???????bF?W6RF&?W"V??F???2?fRF?V?"?6R?F?W????&V6??R&?&?V??bvR?WBF?V?F???FR?W"FV6?6???????r6???WFV?v?F??WBW6??r?W"??FV??V7B???w6?FRF?V????fR&VV?&VF??rF?RF&?Bf?"F?R???"'B?b?GV?B?fR?B?V7BF?R?7B#2?V'2?"6???B????W7Bv?V???&VF??rf?"6?V?B?v?V??6?6VRF?B??fR??6??R6????"?&vRv??V?VBF?V?F?6?Rv?F?F?V?"W&6V?fVB&?&?V?2????W&?W???F??2?fR?2F?&R?b76?7F?6RF??F?W'2?BF??V?F?V?w&?rb?V&??F??2??GW&????w2?RF??V??6V?b??F?R6?Rv?????V6??F??fR6??R????rwV?FW2?b??v??&?F???F?R7?&?Bv?&?B?B?W&R??V'F??v?F?F?Rv?6F???b?F?W'2bF?R&??G?F?f??FW"?WBF?RF???w2??VVB?BF?RF???w2F?BF???B6W'fR?R???fR6VV?&?r&?w&W72???7?&?GV???W&?W??B?fRv??VB66WF?6R?bF?RF???w2????fRF?B?fR&VV?6V?BF?G'??R???F?W"76????2?V??r???W7V?&V????7FW"'WB?6??fR7GVF?VB??B&VV?GGV?VBF?????F?W"?V??r??F?F?W2?v?V??V??r??F?????B?2???'F?BF?v?&???WfW'?'B?bF?R&?&?V??F?RWF?W&V??F?R??6?6??BF?RV??F???ò????'B?????fW7F??rF?6V6R??F?R&?G??v?F?F?RW6R?bF?R&V???V?W&w?F??2?26??WfVB?v?F?F&?B?B&V?????fVV???fRv??FW&gV?F???2F?76?7B?BV6RF?R'W&FV?2?b?F?W'2???W?6?FVBF?&R'B?bF??2?v???R?&V6W6R?B?2?Ff?&?f?"???v??FW&gV????G2?bf?Wr?B?6?f?"?V&???r?B6?&??r?&?W76VB&Rwwr?7?6??77FV???6???wwr?6?VV???vV?6?v???R?vV'2?6????TŒ?TuU5@??c`???