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How to: A Healthy, Happy Relationship
Obviously, there is no way in which a relationship can be perfect. Conflict is inevitable however, it is important to note the quanitity in which the conflicts occur.
To begin, it is essential that before entering a committed relationship, the individual msut have a strong sense of individuality and work on their career. Once entering a relationship, it is important to still maintaince their independance while within the relationship, communication is essential. As the relationship develops, the decision to procreate may occur. The children will cause stress on the relationship in attempting to raise another human for the first time. The relatioship may often take a back seat to the baby, however it is important to maintain a strong, loving relationship while still leaving extra time to remain a strong individual. The time managment can be tricky in doing so, but these aspects must continue to be maintaianed for the following years to come as their children grow into teenagers. This is because, more stress will continue to arise such as, when their child moves out, trying to overcome the feeling of an empty nest and experiencing depression. Being alone again with your partner will need some adaptation. In the final stage of a relationship, family in later life will have to maintain the relationship with their children, and eventually, learn to live by themselves when one of the
individuals in the relationship passes away.
The relationship between two individuals is essential to maintain as child-parent relationships are affected by it. Parents are a child's primary agent of socialization. Therefore, they play a huge impact on both the social skills of the child, but also the level of secure attachment the child experiences. A child must be able to experience trust in others, and that strength derives from their ability to rely on their caretakers. If events occur that the child can not experience the correct form of attachment, there are downfalls as disorganized attachment, which derives from a traumatic parent-child relationship.
Being a parent is stressful, however there are steps you can take to help minimize stress and create a strong parent-child bond. For example, authoritative parenting has shown best results within children. Being firm, yet fair, lead to children having higher self-esteem. However, authoritorian parenting, which is very strict with high expectations, leads children to be stressed and insecure. Finally, not providing enough expectations and high morals for your child, leads to children being at hgiher risk for sexual promiscuity and lower performance in school. In all, there is no way to ensure a much desired happy ending, although there are steps one can take to assist in the process. So as described, the relationships bonded between your spouse and child, are essential to contributing to a heaalthier, and happier life.
-David Rose