Business Fit Magazine November 2019 Issue 3 | Page 30

Mindset & Emotion
A specialist in relationship training, Viola
Edward, explains the importance of forgiving
those who we feel have wronged us, but also
of forgiving ourselves and how by doing so, we
set ourselves free from guilt and shame.
For every metre of an iceberg seen floating above
the surface of the water, there are nine metres
which cannot be seen below it. People are like
icebergs in that, to transform our behaviour (i.e.
the ‘visible’ result above the surface), we must
first work on ourselves at a deeper level or down
around the nine metre mark, which is where the
thought patterns and beliefs forming the basis of
our attitude towards life and lead us to express
ourselves with one form of behaviour or another
are to be found.
Then it is essential to forgive in order to
integrate and really grow emotionally. If not,
your awareness will be endlessly subject to the
realm of your emotions and these emotions will
confuse your ability to see the truth, keeping you
captive of your attitude of mind. This situation will
feed on your energy, keeping you trapped. Being
tied to the emotional body keeps you trapped at
a physical level which keeps both your body and
mind captive. Therefore Conscious Connected
breathing is fundamental to liberate body,
emotion and mind.
Forgiveness is another way of acting consciously
to clear and change any thought, emotion or
sensation which leaves you feeling alienated
from your divine essence. Forgiveness sets you
free because, by forgiving yourself and others,
you give up the need to hide the guilt and shame
you feel as a result of having thought you were
a defenceless victim or that you have been
relentlessly victimising others.
Why bother to forgive? When you forgive others,
you are loving yourself because you release your
heart and mind from judgement and resentment.
When you judge others, you only judge yourself
and use the same yardstick for both yourself and
them. Holding on to resentment means that you
are keeping your memory and emotive nature
busy with a painful memory and all resentment
does is feed this and magnify it. Forgiveness
turns the yardstick into a wand that sets you
free and makes you generous with yourself, your
surroundings and with others. By integrating
experiences from the past and being free to
celebrate the present moment, your memory
and emotions can then offer themselves to serve
you for a better life here and now.
FORGIVENESS
Guilt, anger, and fear hold us captive when the
emotional body feeds off fear. You can fake you
are not feeling anger, guilt, fear or sadness but
there is no way around the emotion. Sooner or
later, you will have to pass through it and absorb
it with your consciousness. However, you can
only absorb the emotions that you are aware of.
In short, the key to moving forwards in all areas
of your life is to integrate what you are and what
your experiences of life have taught you.
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Guilt, anger,
and fear hold
us captive
when the
emotional body
feeds off fear
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