Budo international Martial Arts Magazine Jul.-Aug. 2014 | Page 191

Kapap
"The Most Difficult
Journey Is The One You
Must Make Within
Yourself..."
Hanshi Patrick McCarthy
Just a few years ago a group of
Krav Maga practitioner's tried to gain
market-share with the only skill they
knew, slander. They tried to character
assassinate me using lies and
nonsensical claims. Using a few guys
that I had removed from KAPAP: One
was a war criminal, and once I found
out, he was out. One was kicked out
of the Israeli Army for being AWOL
and shameful and I also refused to
allow him to test to get in YAMAM
unit. One was an Ex-YAMAM member
that tried to become an instructor, but
wasn't good enough, and instead the
YAMAM unit took me as it's Instructor.
One guy was discharged from the
Israeli Army with Mental Health issues
after just 3 weeks of service. He
claimed to have training from the
Israeli Secret Service, but in reality he
was merely trained by a guy that was
once a military driver. The second was
an Air Force technician and the last
hardly served in the Army having the
lowest IDF military profile 31, which
meant that one more point down and
he would be out of the Military. Yet this
'great team' managed with real Kapap
that popped up after 15 years, to
claim there was no Kapap, but since
Kapap had gained popularity, now all
Krav Maga best sellers were becoming
KAPAP. This 'team' claimed that
Kapap was the YAMAM system, but
they forgot that I instituted it and set it
in YAMAM with Lt. Colonel Chaim
Peer. This 'team' united with a
pedophile that was convicted 6 times
in Israeli court for raping his students.
But 'now' they are the 'real-deal'!
One day my kid came home from
school and asked me why in school
when they ran a Google search on my
name, it popped up that I was a fraud!
This was one of the most disturbing
moments of my life. How can evil win?
These criminals were even using the
power of the internet and internet
forums to try and set bad names and
slander on my father RIP. That was
when I decided to fight back.
My father taught me lots of things,
but the first and most important was
respect.
What's the meaning of respect? My
father never spoke of his past, of wars
even though he'd been in 5 wars and
was one of only a select few men that
can wear the dress Red Wings in
Israel! I asked my father just two
weeks before he died to talk to me
about his past, but he said "we did
what we had to do, not for reward, but
we defended what we believed in, and

our country, and for what we built and
our families and nothing more."
My father lost his two parents when
he was 11 years old. He moved to live
in Israel and did not have an easy life. I
remember as I visited and then lived in
Japan that my father would go to work
at 5am, and on a cold day I just
understood what he'd said many years
ago to me: "I may have hard work but I
will manage to send you to the best
schools and get the best education so
you can have successes in life." I owe
him my successes for sure, as I also
became an officer in the Army even
though I wasn't interested in it, but he
pushed me hard to choose the good
ways in life.
After my father died I understood
how many people loved him and
respected him and then understood
how 'rich' he was. In this article I'll try
to share some ideas as to why I
continue to ignore evil and push it
away. Evil people and my enemies:
enemies are never my friends as bad
people are just bad people. This
opened my eyes to study more. As
hard as the slander has been it's
taught me a lot and made me a better
person. I can also say that it has
shown me a lot about my friends, as
Martin Luther King said "In the End, we
will remember not the words of our
enemies, but the silence of our
friends." And yes, my friends kept
silent as many would like to be taller by
stepping on others.
I try my best to teach with love and
peace, keeping ego away as in
Machado BJJ there is a great quote:
"leave your ego at the door when you
enter this dojo." I'm old school. I try to
instill in people good values and good
morals and good education, not just
skills of physical techniques, and in my
school there will be no bullying or
egotistical martial art. That brings me
to a nice read to share with you by
Hanshi Patrick McCarthy:
"People will forget what you said.
People will forget what you did, but
People will never forget how you
made them feel."
I dreamt I had an interview with God.
"Come in" God said.
"So, you would like to interview
Me?"
"If you have the time" I said.
God smiled and said:
"My time is eternity and is enough to
do everything; what questions do you
have in mind to ask me?"
"What surprises you most about
mankind?"
God answered:
"That they get bored of being
children, are in a rush to grow up, and
then long to be children again. That
they lose their health to make money

and then lose their money to restore
their health. That by thinking anxiously
about the future, they forget the
present, such that they live neither for
the present nor the future. That they
live as if they will never die, and they
die as if they had never lived..."
God's hands took mine and we were
silent for awhile and then I asked, "As
a parent, what are some of life's
lessons you want your children to
learn?" God replied with a smile:
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