72 Brahmcharya
If sex were indeed poison, then Lord Mahavir would never have become fully enlightened tirthankara. He too had a daughter. Therefore, fearlessness in sex is poison. If you feel,‘ Nothing will hurt me in sex’, then that is poison.
I have used the word fear so that one would have fear in sex. Involvement is sexuality should be the last resort. So, what I am saying is have fear in sex. Even the Lord himself was fearful in sex, as were all the mighty Gnanis. Who then are you not to be fearful of sex? If there is a lot of delicious food, you can enjoy it but have fear and moderation in enjoying it because you will suffer if you eat too much. Therefore, have some fear.
Questioner: After becoming the pure Soul, shuddhatma, should I have sexual interactions with my wife and if so, with what intention? How can I deal with equanimity here?
Dadashri: If you have a wife, then you both have to reach an acceptable solution for both in sexual matters. Your sexual dealing should be such that it is acceptable by both of you. Stop any interaction, which is acceptable to one and not to other. You should not hurt your wife in any manner.
I am telling you that this medicine of sex is a sweet medicine. Just as you take any medicine in the right dose, take this medicine of sex in right dose. When does married life excel? It does so when you take the medicine only when both of you have a fever. Does any one take medicine without a fever? If one takes medicine without a fever, the married life would not attain harmony. Therefore it should be taken only if both have a sexual fever. You do not take medicine everyday just because it is sweet.
All these highly evolved souls, such as Rama-Sita, had control over their passions. They had sexual control. Is abrahmacharya a divine quality? No, it is a bestial quality.