Brahmacharya: Celibacy With Understanding(Abr.) Brahmcharya: Celibacy With Understanding(Abr.) | Page 40

Brahmcharya
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Dadashri : No, that is not the case. It is because his
nischaya is not nischaya. He has not made a firm decision. This
is not a result of previous life and this so-called firm decision
that he had made, was done by watching others doing it. It
wavers because it is done out of going along with others around
him. Why don’t you get married instead, what do you have to
lose? At least you will help some girl get settled.
There can never be exception in brahmacharya because
man’s mind is looking for a loophole and wherever there is a
slightest hole, the mind makes it larger.
Questioner : What tendencies (of the chit) are working
within when a person searches for a loophole?
Dadashri : It is the mind that is working and not the
tendencies of the chit. It is the nature of the mind to search for
loopholes.
Questioner : How can one stop mind from looking for
loopholes?
Dadashri : With nischaya. A firm unflinching decision.
How can it look for a loophole, if your decision is firm? If your
decision is firm then nobody can find a loophole. Just like a
person who has made a firm decision of not eating meat, will
not eat meat.
Questioner : So, should we have a firm decision in
every matter?
Dadashri : A firm decision is what makes everything
work.
Questioner : After realizing the Self, does one need
nischaya in relative matters?
Dadashri : You, the Self do not have to keep the firm