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the mind stays away from it and therefore it will forget it forever.
It will never remember it again. It will not go there even if you
want it to. Do you understand that? It is like if you stayed away
from your friend for two years then your mind will forget him.
Questioner : When we give the mind the freedom to
enjoy sex, it remains uninterested and when we control the
mind, it becomes restless even more, the fascination for sex
increases. What is the reason for this?
Dadashri : This is not called having control over the
mind. That which does not accept our control cannot be called
control. Shouldn’t there be a controller? You can only control,
if you are the controller. You are not the controller, because
your mind does not obey you. Does your mind obey you?
Mind is not to be obstructed. Instead, the causes of the
mind have to be obstructed. The mind is a result. It is an effect.
It will continue to show the results. It is like the result of an
examination. The result cannot be changed without changing the
answers of the examination. These answers were given in the
past life. The result is now in front of you as the mind. How can
you identify the cause of the effect? How did the mind filled
with sex arise? The answer is that it is stuck in sex. It was stuck
in sex in the last life and it is stuck in sex in this life. One should
identify all the places where the mind is stuck in this life, and cut
off the link with it.
Questioner: Which is better, practice of brahmacharya
without ever getting exposed to marriage - sexual interaction
with a man or woman or practice of brahmacharya after getting
married?
Dadashri : Coming to me is the solution. What other
solution is there? If you try to give up one passion by yourself,
another one will enter. A vacuum created cannot remain as