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she look so haggard and

unkempt simply because

you are now the one in

charge? My brother, step

up and rise to your re-

sponsibilities of nurtur-

ing and cherishing your

wife as Christ does the

church.
Spots also are signs of

manhandling.

He is to handle her with

honour, as a weaker ves-

sel. 1 Peter 3:7. The word

"weaker vessel" refers to

a delicate vessel and not

necessarily physically

weak person. Yes men are

stronger than women,

but women possess pecu-

liar strengths not found

in men as well. Such

strength as carrying a

pregnancy for nine months, the pain and challenge of delivery through travail and labour. Not to talk of
the lifetime job of caring for the whole family. That is strength right there.
Spots on a woman indicates that she is not being properly treated by her husband and in most cases she
might be going through an abuse through violence.

f. Vs. 28-30. A husband must know how to love himself. How you love your wife is a reflection of how
you love yourself and to love yourself, you must love God well enough. You will only love yourself to the
extent to which you have been able to love God. And all that will reflect in your relationship with your
wife.

g. Vs 31. A man must have left father and mother to really be a husband. You cannot pursue two relationships in the same way. To be successful at one you must play down on the other. You have been
called by marriage to start a new genealogy and lineage. It is a whole new family that must not necessarily look like that of your parents, that is why God insists on leaving for cleaving to be effective.

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