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ATTITUDE. The right attitude creates the
right atmosphere even as the saying goes that attitude determines altitude. The right language must
be used to speak the mood into motion of the moment. A wise woman builds her home. The right
language has to be spoken. Every spouse should
know his or her partners language of love,
(Chapman 2015), what this means is you have to
know what sets it off for your partner, what makes
him or her feels loved, you must touch their soft
spot Chapman deliberates that for one to stay in
love they must know if their partners love language
is either arts of service, words of praise, sex, gifts
etc. If we learn to meet each other's deep emotional need to feel loved, and choose to do it, the
love we share will be exciting beyond anything
we've ever felt."-(Chapman 2015).
Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your spouse looks,
or how great the dinner tasted. These words will
also build your mate's self image and confidence.
Quality Time Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on
one another is the best way to show love. If this is
your partner's love language, turn off the TV now
and then and give one another some undivided attention (Chapman 2015).

Gifts
It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They
don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly
enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse
who feels neglected and unloved (Chapman 2015).
Acts of Service
Discovering how you can best do something for your
spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of
service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting
a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to
be perceived as a gift of love (Chapman 2015).
Physical Touch
Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding
hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need
(Chapman 2015).
Marriage can be another paradise on earth or another
hell in the world, it can be beautiful or ugly, and it can
be enjoyed or endured.
―Kiss me and kiss me again,
for your love is sweeter than wine.
3 How fragrant your cologne;
your name is like its spreading fragrance.
No wonder all the young women love you!
4 Take me with you; come, let‘s run!
The king has brought me into his bedroom.‖
You need to caution yourself from things, which may
put our marriages in jeopardy

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